Category: Parenting

The 4th Trimester

Compared to other mammals, humans are much more fragile at birth. That’s why parents need to be in physical contact and providing constant attention to their babies.

Experts believe humans are born 3-4 months earlier than we should be because when primitive women stood up, the shape of their pelvis became more narrow, which resulted in babies being born still needing serious protection from their parents.

Newborns don’t have the brain maturity to deal with the outside world. They depend on their parents for basic survival.

Babies don’t know how to soothe themselves until they are about 4 months old.

In the womb baby is constantly rocked, skin-to-skin, held and their is always noise. This is, to some degree, what a baby needs outside the womb – during the 4th trimester

5’ S’s – Not all babies need all 5 and you’ll find the perfect combo for your baby

Tight swaddling provides constant touch

Left side to help with digestion or on stomach to provide reassuring support. Turn on back for sleep

Make shushing sounds to calm a baby, which imitate the continual whooshing sound made by blood flow in mom

Rocking, swinging movements, car rides, infant swings

Sucking triggers the calming reflexes and releases natural chemicals in the brain

Moms also have their on version of 4th trimester with hormone changes, sleep depravation and stress. So take care of yourself! Your only job is to feed yourself and baby and to rest!

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Who Says Babies Can’t Communicate?

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Crawl To Action – November 18

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Learn Baby Sign Language

Ever wish you knew what your baby was thinking? Are you tired of feeling helpless and frustrated because you can’t understand what your baby wants?

Learning sign language with your baby is simple and you can learn all you need to know in one short session at the Tiny Talkers workshop. Babies who Sign… Are Less Frustrated Resulting in Less Tears & Tantrums Speak Earlier Have Higher IQ’s Develop Larger Vocabularies Become Better Readers Have Enhanced Self Esteem & Confidence Parents who Sign.

Shira Fogel leads full workshops typically lasting 1 hour and 45 minutes and are for parents and caregivers, not the kiddos. Non-mobile babies are welcome if the parents feel they can care for them while concentrating on all of the information that I am providing.  You can read more about what I am offering at my website and I am attaching a brochure for you to review as well.

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An Excerpt from “Being With Babies”

Babies have wonderful ways of communicating with us and Dr. Wendy Anne McCarty has some great insights that I’ve posted below. Babies can easily get overwhelmed or overstimulated. The below tips from Dr. McCarty can help babies integrate their experiences to feel safe and learn to build trust. Enjoy and be observant the next time you are with a little one!

  • Slow the pace down. Slow down inside yourself. Fast actions, interactions and transitions from one thing to another can easily overwhelm the baby.
  • Adapt the environment: temperature, lights, sounds, to their cues.
  • Approach the baby with respect for their boundaries and be sensitive to their cues.
  • Ask permission when you sincerely are giving them a choice, such as “Would you like me to hold you?” Then wait for a cue from them.
  • Tell the baby ahead of time what you will be doing or what is going to happen, such as: When you are going to break contact with them and move your attention. When you are going to do something with or for them (”I’m going to pick you up and change your diaper now”). When you are about to initiate a transition – This is an especially important time to tell then about the change ahead of time (For example, if Daddy has been playing with baby and has to leave for work, he might say, “This has been so much fun playing together…and in a few minutes I am going to leave for work. I’ll be back later and we will play more then.”)
  • Notice baby’s reaction to the changes and acknowledge them. Often our transitions can be too quick for them to integrate. To acknowledge that and pause helps the baby.
  • Acknowledge or reflect what the baby is expressing. This is so helpful for the baby and a great way to interact with them. For example, “Oh, you’re reaching out with your hand, I see.”
  • Tell baby what you are feeling. If you are around the baby and are upset about something or are in conflict with someone, the baby will naturally pick up on it. It helps them if you identify what’s going on. They often feel it is something they did and so it can be helpful to say something like, “I’m upset about something from work today. It doesn’t have anything to do with you, but you may feel my upset.”

Dr. Wendy Anne McCarty has a 2 booklet set and other publications supporting parent and baby relationships on her website, Wondrous Beginnings.

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Mothergarden at Nurture

Mothergarden
A free drop-in group for moms & babies
Come meet other moms, laugh, cry, tell our stories, and most of all, support each other.

Mondays 10:30-noon, starting September 7
Nurture, Center for Growing Families
1614 NE Alberta St, Portland, OR  97211

Hosted by Welcome with Love Family Care, and Nurture, Center for Growing Families.

What is Mothergarden? Mothergarden is a space to relax and share your experience of being a mother, meet other moms, trade stories and suggestions, find the support you need, and simply enjoy the company of other moms & babies.

How did Mothergarden come to be? Mothergarden has been birthed from a lovely partnership between Nurture and Sarah Nuxoll of Welcome with Love Family Care. Sarah’s vision of helping women as they grow into their roles as mothers is perfectly complemented by Nurture’s mission to provide a warm and welcoming space for growing families to find the support they need. Our intention is to bring together moms & babies to help bring forth the collective wisdom, humor, and compassion that sustain and nourish us as mothers.

Who is invited? Although we created Mothergarden to help new mothers find support and companionship, we also welcome expectant mothers, dads & partners, grandparents, friends, and others who are interested in creating a parenting community to support each other.

For more information, visit Nurture, or contact Sarah at welcomewithlove@gmail.com.

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More Great Workshops at Nurture

As part of the continuing parenting workshop series at Nurture, a Center for Growing Families in NE Portland, below are details for two innovative workshops coming up. The description was written by Sarah Nuxoll.
This month, on August 22nd, Nurture will present “Parents are People too: Reclaiming our Personal Expression as Parents.” This will be a fun workshop about the importance of honoring our own creative expression, and how to find new ways to do so in the midst of parenting.
Next month, on September 12th & 19th, due to continued interest, Nurture is again offering their two-part birth workshop: “Moving Beyond a Difficult Birth: Embracing Healing and Connecting with your Baby.” This is a powerful, transformative workshop for any mother who has experienced trauma around her birth experience, to help her with tools for healing and heartfelt exercises for reconnecting with her baby.
Please consider passing along this information to clients, colleagues, friends, family, or anyone who might enjoy or be helped by these workshops. If you would like to receive a hard copy (or several) of the flyer, please let me know.
Parents are People Too: Reclaiming Our Personal Expression as Parents
August 22, 2pm-4pm    $30

As a parent, it is so easy to get caught up in the flow of daily obligations, leaving little time or energy for expressing who we are and what captures our imagination. Yet this creative exploration is essential to feeling fulfilled in our lives, which in turn translates into feeling more relaxed and happy in our role as parents. In this workshop, we will explore fun ways for re-igniting our creativity, loosening up preconceptions around what it means to be creative, and finding new means of personal expression that work in our daily lives as parents.

Moving Beyond a Difficult Birth:
Embracing Healing and Connecting with your Baby

September 12 & 19, 2pm-4pm $45

The experience of birth doesn’t always happen the way we imagine. Intense emotions from a challenging pregnancy or birth can make it feel difficult to be fully present with our baby. These emotions need and deserve to be expressed and acknowledged, before we can allow ourselves to release them and begin true emotional healing. Then we can relax more deeply into a heartfelt, intuitive connection with our child.

Part One: Birth Healing through Story and Art

Telling our story in a safe, supportive circle of women can be a profoundly powerful experience. In Part One of this workshop, we will share our birth stories together, while exploring artistic and body-mind tools for expressing and releasing difficult emotions and inviting emotional healing.

Part Two: Connecting Deeply with your Baby

What babies most need from us, is heartfelt connection. In Part Two of this workshop, we will explore creative exercises for healing our emotional connection with our baby after a difficult birth, helping us bring forth our intuitive wisdom as mothers for welcoming our babies fully and lovingly into our lives.

Both workshops held at Nurture, Center for Growing Families, 1614 NE Alberta St, Portland, OR  97211. Sliding scale is available. For more information or to register, contact Sarah at 503.285.4906 or welcomewithlove@gmail.com.

About the presenters
Sarah Nuxoll
After several years of feeling frustrated as a parent, I began working toward deeper body-mind clarity and emotional and spiritual healing. Now I feel excited about helping myself and others to engage life, move with our creativity, and allow ourselves to feel happy as parents. In these workshops, I share insights from my experience as a mother of two, as a spiritual practitioner, and as a former apprentice homebirth midwife. I look forward to meeting you! (www.welcomewithlovefamilycare.com)
Mychelle Moritz
Having experienced the beautiful yet challenging transition to parenthood, I have developed a passion for helping women and their growing families. I am an artist, an art therapist, and a licensed professional counselor, as well as the co-founder of Nurture. My two active young children keep me very busy and I enjoy watching their creative antics. (www.nurturepdx.com)

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