This exaggerated hip swing,
The rocking of my own cradle;
Relaxin relaxes my joints into soft sensual submission,
Allowing me to open, open, open.
How did I get here?
Oxytocic orgasm,
Estrogen and Progesterone, mounting, mounting, mounting,
Leaving me cry, cry, crying, over spilt milk.
How did I know I was here?
HCG whispered it in my ear
Two blue lines, in parallel
The tell tale sign, that every woman anticipates and fears.
Oxytocin awakes me at 2am,
I feel the pulling
The downward force
My body is moving
…without my permission.
Still, it says yes, and asks for more.
More oxytocin… more….
More pain, more force.
The hours go by…
I pace and dance
With my relaxin hip swing.
I feel the baby drop down
Prostaglandins are massaging my cervix,
Softer, thinner,
Creating gentle passage for my child.
Down and through he slides…
Just when I think I can take no more,
When I can do no more to birth my child.
Endorphin release…
Things get less sharp…
The sights, the sounds, the pain.
Suddenly it is just me
And this child… Working together, a team.
Finally the time is coming
Rushes of oxytocin are overwhelming
I feel a rush of urgency and fear
Catecholomines.
Noradrenaline is telling me to get this baby out…
So I push…
My heart pounds and I push….
And the child bursts forth, and lies before me…
Shakes its head and begins to scream.
I feel something come over me,
Something I never knew I could feel
Overwhelming love, intoxicating….
I hold my child on my chest,
He slowly bobs towards my breast.
I watch him with tears in my eyes.
Prolactin and oxytocin bring me so close to my child.
These hormones have made me a mother today.
I am loving how the site has evolved in such a short time! Thank you all for participating, reading and sharing.
Here is a quick update on what will be happening over the next few months:
Again, thank you all for participating. It is so important that we have a forum to connect with each other and share our stories.
If anyone would like to see something that is not posted, feel free to comment and let me know.
Continue reading »Santa Ana winds call to her
Roasting LA, cooking us
Mom floating naked in the stealthy pool
No splashing, no voice
Only the treacherous moon
Patchouli and Jasmine kiss me good morning
Trips to Ventura keep it all very cool
Digging sand pits around the tummy that will soon
Be a sister
Lamaze classes with Carol King in the front row
Dreamy times for hippie children
Our lives turning out to be a Tapestry
Up all night, my first time knowing
Dad and I late Olympic coverage
Then watching Dondi
Fading into the celebratory mist of dreams
Awakening to the strange Moscow circus
The symphony of coordinated pain and breath
And joy, watching sister get born
Olive oil and boiling pots
Naked not transforming
In mom and dad’s bed
In Van Nuys
There was music that day, always
Dad greeting the birth in song
Then a Pepsi and a filet for mom
Just one day old
Molly watched the green sparklers
As she and America celebrated their birth
One with the other
Michael Deasy Jr.10/31/08
Continue reading »She is beautiful and strong
She is sensual and unafraid of being naked
She has excellent balance because she is rooted to the Earth
She is dancing because her swollen body wants to move
Her belly is like the full moon and the tides move within her
She smiles because she knows a secret. The secret.
She is a goodess – she can choose whether to bring life or send it away
Her heart is full and swells with blood
Her breasts swell with milk and nectar
Her belly swells with life
She is tender like a deer and ferocious like a tiger
She is radiant and people smile as she passes
She shares her body with her child as Mother Earth shares hers with all of her children
Magick is happening in her and to her and with her
Written by Chandala Tso Shiva
January 11, 2008
It’s not a baby. And it’s not my politics
saying this, it’s experience. A baby is
everyone’s: grandma holds it, aunt
changes it, brother kisses it. But a
fetus does not breathe air, cannot live
on its own, and if it is anyone’s other
that its own, it is mine, solely mine.
Perhaps you can’t love a fetus, need it
to be a baby, an air breathing being that
looks like you. I need only to know it
is inside me, feel it pushing its way around
its tiny home. I love the almost baby because
it is not yet a baby. I love the fetus not
for its potential but for what it is right now.
Its own self, connected and separate. Mommy’s
constant companion swimming without a name.
–Lisa Alden
Births
We will never have any memory of dying.
We were so patient
about our being,
noting down
numbers, days,
years and months,
hair, and the mouths we kiss,
and that moment of dying
we let pass without a note -
we leave it to others as memory,
or we leave it simply to water,
to water, to air, to time.
Nor do we even keep
the memory of being born,
although to come into being was tumultuous and new;
and now you don’t remember a single detail
and haven’t kept even a trace
of your first light.
It’s well known that we are born.
It’s well known that in the room
or in the wood
or in the shelter in the fishermen’s quarter
or in the rustling canefields
there is a quite unusual silence,
a grave and wooden moment as
a woman prepares to give birth.
It’s well known that we were all born.
But if that abrupt translation
from not being to existing, to having hands,
to seeing, to having eyes,
to eating and weeping and overflowing
and loving and loving and suffering and suffering,
of that transition, that quivering
of an electric presence, raising up
one body more, like a living cup,
and of that woman left empty,
the mother who is left there in her blood
and her lacerated fullness,
and its end and its beginning, and disorder
tumbling the pulse, the floor, the covers
till everything comes together and adds
one knot more to the thread of life,
nothing, nothing remains in your memory
of the savage sea which summoned up a wave
and plucked a shrouded apple from the tree.
The only thing you remember is your life.
Pablo Neruda: (from “Fully Empowered”, translation of “Plenos Poderes” 1962)
Continue reading »Heat hovers
Like whispers close to the ear
In a room lit by an August moon
Quiet light warms your feet
Like slow moving water
The small of your back
A sweet dewey cup
The curve of your collarbone
The slope my fingers ride
The strand of hair wending across your forehead
My thrill
From the summit of this dizzying height I willingly leap onto the shores of your life and die happily in your love
White linen sheet cool as reprieveScented with loam Floats
In the hollows of your shapely bones
Lays delicatelyOver your undulating grace
The impossibility of your beauty
White seeps into every corner Ever expanding my fulfillment.
Its fibers
A trillion tiny stalks
Quivering with joy that they were plucked from the earth in time to enfold you
First published in the PoetSpeak anthology for their November 2004 poetry reading event. Written by Kim A. Steffgen
I never expected to be so moved by the words mothers have sent me. I have chills reading their poems and feel humbled by the greatness of life.
Thank you for this gift.
Continue reading »A Woman waits, as
a Girl maybe of curls, yet
surely of cuddles
From the time of mud
puddles to the Rain from the
Moon, her Rain, her Reign…
Empowered as none
might even feign to know, ‘cept
as, HerSelf under-
stated…Unabated
vibrancies we cannot see,
Empowered as none
might even feign to
know, tho’… And then the Love Be-
yond-Beyond, and to
The Plan… of a first
knowing Nau; draw the shudders
un-the-string, soon the
mutterings…in the
Spring, my Darling, in the Spring!
We will taste the Wine’s
Sublime… Yet, how do I
Feel me to You? I do, want
two…Alas, It is
Yours to know mine as
Mine, and you of three in Me
Feel this Miracle!
H.e.m.
10.15.MMviii.
effervescence hinges the high notes
while dreamy eyes blink
slow light
as fishes float lilac blue;
vermillion wonder flashing
fierce mother-Love through my fatal heart,
piercing the
foggy, breathless dreams.
i hold her softness with
careful memory:
golden glowing baubles,
aquatic gestures, when!
a sudden beam
smashes bittersweet tears
into the ache of Time
(a dilated sigh)
she, my yoko, smiles!
slipping silvery sands
cross my round belly,
over moony breasts;
through the untouched guise
i drift on the magick spell
of yoko’s newborn eyes.
katalin december, 2004
written a week or two after her birth
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I.
Venus has returned in early morning sky.
we called it your star, Ruby’s star.
it shimmers over dark November stones, as i stumble
remembering, remembering, remembering…
II.
her brilliant beginning: soft, red skin, misty eyes wide open
Birth: the smell of blood and salt in dark night.
wonder saturated the air, heavy as smoke,
in the finite hours of one precious day.
Suddenly! newness gave way to blueness; birth gave way to death.
a breath between one second and the next.
Death waxed calm terror as your Spirit flew fast
like a whisper over the ocean, fading like Moth wings at dawn,
lost among the waves of the world.
Dear one, came to leave, born to die, master of Samsara
Time spinning and i am holding you even as i am letting you go.
III.
somehow the aching nights turned over.
dread days became lighter weeks,
sun revolving moon reverberating flow.
we floated your ashes, blue bone and red copper
down the Ganges, the divine Mother.
swirling amidst flame and hibiscus, a tiny vessel of Hope,
of Spirit transmuted
the fragile joy cracked open, shattered and revealing;
an illumined spark of the Divine,
Rubybleu essence: glowing burning seeds of truth.
and finally i can cast mine which is not mine
Beyond the you who is not you into the quiet unknown.
I wrote this poem about my daughter who was born in 2002, then died just a few days later.. She was born at home, but then was in the hospital for a couple days until she flew away.. katalin
My deepest fear is not that I am inadequate,
My deepest fear is that I am powerful beyond measure.
It is my light, not my darkness that most frightens me.
I ask myself
who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who am I not to be?
I am a child of God.
My playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people will not feel insecure around me.
I was born to manifest the glory of God that is within me.
It is not just in me; it is in everyone.
And as I let my own light shine,
I unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As I am liberated from my own fear,
My presence automatically liberates others.
My intention with this blog is to create a community site where women, Midwives, Doulas and families can contribute and share their stories, insights, art, poetry, words, photos……
I’m interested in any type of submission and am specifically seeking poetry this month. If you’re interested please leave me a comment and we can continue the conversation via email.
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